Hi Ms. Toepfer,
I do not know whether you hold a teaching position in the church. If so then, yes, sadly I would say you are a false teacher and/or heretic and I would hope and pray that you repent because you are leading others into the darkness and away from Christ.
If you do not hold a teaching position, I would say that you have embraced a heresy and that it is not an unimportant one. 1st Corinthian 6 is very clear that our sexual lives are important to God. To order your sexual life in a way that is displeasing to him will result in your spiritual and physical harm and I pray that you will not act on the false belief you have come to.
So the commenter didn't go so far as to say I'm not a Christian, but a heretic is probably as good as. No wonder we can't even talk about this. There's no where to start if the other person has to resist with every fiber of their being the possibility of being led into darkness and away from Christ. I'm not sure what to do about this but pray.